The death of a loved one is a traumatic moment in life. There is loneliness, sadness, and frustration.

Yet, in that moment, there is the potentiality to personally expand, to reflect, to realize the meaning of great compassion in the event, to feel the deeper meanings of joy, to experience gratitude, and to find meaning and growth.

At that critical time, we are asked to participate in the preparation of the final rites of the loved one. However, if the preparation is thought of as a growth process, then the event will truly be meaningful.

In Gassho,

Seigen H. Yamaoka

Bishop, Buddhist Churches of America